I have a busy career in real estate and a strong passion for writing. Ever since my book series 'The Beijing Family' was published in 2017, it has garnered over 90+ reviews on Goodreads and Amazon worldwide. In fact, over 60% of the readers are from outside of the United States and I am so ecstatic! Due to work demands, my marketing efforts have been meager and I know it can be better. But I am truly grateful for the modest amount of readers the books have gained globally so far. I just wish I had 36 hours in a day to spend more time on my books and reach more readers. But every time readers reach out to me online, I want to crawl through the wireless wormhole and hug each of them. I am truly grateful that my writing has touched readers worldwide the way it has been so far. This is truly a blessing!
The Beijing Family is a fictional book series about a billionaire family from Beijing making Beverly Hills their new home. It depicts a modern Chinese family adjusting to their new life in the U.S. filled with new friends and life events spiced with intriguing cultural nuances, a historical past that haunt them, modern trends they can't escape and enchanting mythology and folklore. The characters occasionally speak Mandarin too - Aiyahh!
Tuesday, July 28, 2020
Tuesday, May 5, 2020
A five star review from a History Professor from Lima Peru on The Beijing Mummy book
A five star review from a History Professor from Lima Peru! He received his education from a world renowned university in the UK. I feared his scrutiny but am so grateful he liked my book.
Monday, September 24, 2018
Saturday, August 4, 2018
Congratulations to 'Crazy Rich Asian' for making the cover of The Hollywood Reporter!
Congratulations to 'Crazy Rich Asians' for making the cover of The Hollywood Reporter! An all Asian cast - it's about time! Movie releasing August 15th.
Tuesday, July 10, 2018
Thankful for good book review on Goodreads!
My second good book review from Thailand, this time on Goodreads! Feeling very thankful and grateful. Thank you internet for showing my writing to the world.
Thursday, February 15, 2018
Happy Chinese New Year! Time to celebrate the Year of the Dog!
Happy Chinese New Year! Time to celebrate the Year of the Dog. Wishing you and yours plenty of good fortune and prosperity.
Wednesday, February 14, 2018
The secret life of the Chinese Mistress
The Chinese Mistress
There was one concubine in particular that broke the barriers of being a concubine and rose to becoming the Dowager or Empress of China from her modest beginnings - Xixi. Giving the Emperor his only son, she used her power, intelligence, charm and natural leadership abilities to become the ruler of China during the Qing dynasty for 47 years.
Today, wealthy Chinese men collect mistresses as a status symbol, just as the emperors did before, nothing has changed.
In 'The Beijing Beauties' or Book 3 of 'The Beijing Family' book series, I tell the story of Chloe, a mistress to a Chinese billionaire and the ultimate decision she has to make of whether she wants to stay with her married boyfriend or leave him and start a whole new life on her own. She's approaching 30 and wants to start a family. She then flies to Los Angeles to confront him. Will she stay with him or leave him for good?
I've met quite a few mistresses to wealthy Chinese men in my real estate career. There seems to be many variations of an age old cultural tradition that dates back thousands of years and it's not just the Chinese. Some call them Xiao San or 'Little Third' which describes a woman who is a girlfriend or mistress to the married husband. Sometimes the wives know about these mistresses, just as many of their own successful fathers had paramours on the side besides their own mothers. It was part of the familial norm and they are used to it. Sometimes the wives have no knowledge about their devious husbands carrying on trysts behind their back. Discovery sometimes led to raging outbursts that make the news including death threats.
Then there is Ernai - 'Second Wife' where the mistress or second wife is welcomed into the inner circle of the married husband as a second wife, not by legal marriage. She is introduced to the wife and her kids and sometimes they all live in the same household and their children. If the second wife or maybe even third and fourth have children, they refer to each other as step-siblings.
I've heard both terms used interchangeably and the role of a mistress is often not as clear cut. Most likely, she is custom blended to fit the needs of herself, her boyfriend and the relationship. Although many might think they are young and beautiful females, that may not always be the case. I've seen them in all ages, genders including transgender varieties, shapes, sizes, social, economic backgrounds and even marital status. Some become mistresses for love, some for financial support or gain. Basically, they all mean one thing - an infidelity occurring in the marriage with a third party that is providing something of value to the relationship.
I’d like to consider the Chinese mistress as modern day concubines. Thousands of years ago when Emperors ruled China, many of them believed that sleeping with many women gave them immortality. In their palaces, there were hundreds of concubines that dwelled along with the Emperor. The men that worked in the palaces were eunuchs to ensure purity in lineage. Sometimes poor rural families would offer their beautiful daughters as concubines to the palace which was deemed an honor. Besides, it eased the pressure on the poor parents in having to feed one more person in the family, especially a girl when they prize a son.
I've met quite a few mistresses to wealthy Chinese men in my real estate career. There seems to be many variations of an age old cultural tradition that dates back thousands of years and it's not just the Chinese. Some call them Xiao San or 'Little Third' which describes a woman who is a girlfriend or mistress to the married husband. Sometimes the wives know about these mistresses, just as many of their own successful fathers had paramours on the side besides their own mothers. It was part of the familial norm and they are used to it. Sometimes the wives have no knowledge about their devious husbands carrying on trysts behind their back. Discovery sometimes led to raging outbursts that make the news including death threats.
Then there is Ernai - 'Second Wife' where the mistress or second wife is welcomed into the inner circle of the married husband as a second wife, not by legal marriage. She is introduced to the wife and her kids and sometimes they all live in the same household and their children. If the second wife or maybe even third and fourth have children, they refer to each other as step-siblings.
I've heard both terms used interchangeably and the role of a mistress is often not as clear cut. Most likely, she is custom blended to fit the needs of herself, her boyfriend and the relationship. Although many might think they are young and beautiful females, that may not always be the case. I've seen them in all ages, genders including transgender varieties, shapes, sizes, social, economic backgrounds and even marital status. Some become mistresses for love, some for financial support or gain. Basically, they all mean one thing - an infidelity occurring in the marriage with a third party that is providing something of value to the relationship.
I’d like to consider the Chinese mistress as modern day concubines. Thousands of years ago when Emperors ruled China, many of them believed that sleeping with many women gave them immortality. In their palaces, there were hundreds of concubines that dwelled along with the Emperor. The men that worked in the palaces were eunuchs to ensure purity in lineage. Sometimes poor rural families would offer their beautiful daughters as concubines to the palace which was deemed an honor. Besides, it eased the pressure on the poor parents in having to feed one more person in the family, especially a girl when they prize a son.
Imperial Concubines that lived in the palace
There was one concubine in particular that broke the barriers of being a concubine and rose to becoming the Dowager or Empress of China from her modest beginnings - Xixi. Giving the Emperor his only son, she used her power, intelligence, charm and natural leadership abilities to become the ruler of China during the Qing dynasty for 47 years.
Today, wealthy Chinese men collect mistresses as a status symbol, just as the emperors did before, nothing has changed.
China's Mistress Village - Oprah Winfrey Network
When I was in grade school, I had a good friend who lived in
a beautiful home in an affluent part of Los Angeles in the hillside. Her father had a successful
business in Taiwan where he spent most of his time. She lived with her mother and sister in Los Angeles where they both attended school. Later as I got older, I learned that her mother was originally her father’s mistress who was quite a home wrecker. They eventually married and through time, lived separate lives. I wouldn't be surprised if her father continued to have mistresses on the side aside from marrying one.
In college, I had another good friend who came to our home for
dinner. While my mother was making dinner, we chatted. In our friendly
conversation, she divulged that she is the daughter of her father’s second
wife. It was from her, I learned
that some successful business men in Asia take on many wives besides the
primary one that is legally bound to the marriage. She lives in their main
house along with the children of her father’s first wife by legal marriage like step siblings. It
was interesting. They all lived together in one big happy family.
In recent years, I helped many nouveau-riche Chinese arriving from overseas
purchase real estate in Southern California as a real estate broker. Almost all
of the more successful business men had mistresses on the side and often sought
the company of prostitutes and occasional flings. I was also shocked to see how
easily some of the women that worked at massage parlors or low level service ended businesses in the San Gabriel Valley offered themselves as consorts and
evening companions in exchange for quick financial gains. San Gabriel Valley is an area in Los Angeles county heavily represented by Chinese from the mainland - mainly as immigrants and newcomers. Unlike the notion of earlier immigrants from China that were poor and migrant, the newest wave of immigrants from China in the last decade are the wealthiest from China. These women gave
servitude to these men in exchange for material comforts that gave no assurance or promises of a future. Yet they didn't care, just as easily they didn't think twice about them being married. The men were overseas and away from the watchful eye of their wives. When the cat is away, the mice will play.
A few, however, made out better. They are smarter and more shrewd. More than the occasional flings as their less fortunate sisters, these calculated opportunists were kept as full time mistresses in beautiful homes surrounded by material comforts. In the city of Arcadia, there are ‘Mistress
Villages’, where mistresses live in certain areas of the city that is well known to be teeming with new immigrants from China with new money. Sometimes these ambitious mistresses are homewreckers. They have the education, smarts and family background to conquer and divide themselves into the marriage as the new wife. Sometimes they are only in the affair for its benefits. Perhaps the wealthy Chinese billionaire can help her financially as she is from a poor family background. Or he can give her connections that she wouldn't acquire on her own or give her money to help her start her business.
It's been my experience that these calculated opportunists are quite savvy. They received all the financial perks of a wife with the freedom of a girlfriend while being single and free. They didn't have to contend with overbearing and controlling Chinese mother in laws, attend boring and obligatory family gatherings and deal with the cultural norms and expectations of a dutiful Chinese wife. Many received financial perks like a home, car and clothes that they wouldn't be able to acquire on their own. I'm not condoning what they do or praise their chosen path. Nor am I challenging the fundamentals of marriage from a political, religious or moral standpoint. I am simply making an observation.
It's been my experience that these calculated opportunists are quite savvy. They received all the financial perks of a wife with the freedom of a girlfriend while being single and free. They didn't have to contend with overbearing and controlling Chinese mother in laws, attend boring and obligatory family gatherings and deal with the cultural norms and expectations of a dutiful Chinese wife. Many received financial perks like a home, car and clothes that they wouldn't be able to acquire on their own. I'm not condoning what they do or praise their chosen path. Nor am I challenging the fundamentals of marriage from a political, religious or moral standpoint. I am simply making an observation.
Arcadia, the Mistress City
In my job as a real estate broker, I’ve come across a good handful of a mistresses purchase homes with their boyfriends' money or helping her wealthy boyfriend complete his home purchase while he is back in Asia. Sometimes these women are on
the man’s payroll and are acting on his behalf as a secretary or assistant and they close escrow on his behalf. Usually, she lives in a very nice home by herself, drives a nice car and most definitely adorns herself with the best that his money can buy. I have become friendly with a few of them through the years; enough to consider them acquaintances, which gave me material to write about a character like Chloe and develop her story.
Every year, hundreds of young women from the poor countryside of China flock into the major cities like Beijing or Shanghai looking for opportunities. Often they find themselves as mistresses to wealthy married men. Some are as young as 16 and date a married man in his 40's and 50's! Pretty disgusting. Isn't that illegal in the US? But it' a path they choose and this practice has been around for centuries and will be around for ever more.
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Friday, February 2, 2018
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Monday, January 8, 2018
No pain, no gain!
Wednesday, January 3, 2018
The Beijing Family helps cancer patient
I donate a good portion of my book sale proceeds to charity. Today, help was given to a blog follower and her Mom who has Stage 4 cancer. Help was given so they can pay for transportation to seek treatment.
Sunday, December 24, 2017
Friday, December 22, 2017
Does China have an Immense Generation Gap?
China and its immense generation gap
I've heard so many stories from friends, family and clients of the ravages of the Cultural Revolution during that time.
The Industrial Revolution spanned over 100 years in the United States. In China, it took place in less than 40 years. So for Americans, it's like having your grandparents as your parents. That's how fast China has changed. In 'The Beijing Youths', I delve into the generation gap occurring between Simon Wang and his son Greg and the conflict that carries throughout the book.
In the 1960's and 70's, China was gripped in the Cultural Revolution or its Dark Ages. The country was ruled by Chairman Mao Tse Tung. He was a ruthless dictator that strived to eradicate the class inequalities of generations before and crush any signs of capitalism or the bourgeois class. In its place, he instituted socialism with "Chinese Characters" where citizens were required to be indoctrinated in widespread communal rural living. He hoped to level the playing field for everyone by having them work in the country fields but the system failed. He even developed 'The Little Red Book' where he cites his own quotes for civilians to recant. If one was caught not memorizing his ideologies or having the book handy, they were punished. He cut off China from the rest of the world by controlling the media, censoring mail and correspondence with the outside world and making its citizens prisoners of their own country.
Chairman Mao's 'Little Red Book'
In the process were years of poverty, blood shed, brutality and violence from the Red Guards that wielded their ruthless power onto the people and famine that killed over 60 million people. An ideaology to purify their generation from the capitalist and money grubbing greedy past failed and massacred many. At the end, many believed that the Cultural Revolution was a social movement that benefited a few in Beijing including Mao at the cost of millions throughout the country. After ten years of bloodshed, Mao and his co-conspirators also known as the 'Gang of Four' that included his last wife were outsted in a publicly humiliating court trial where they were thrown in jail. The people suffered enough.
Chairman Mao Tse Tung
China's Cultural Revolution or the Dark Ages
Quoting the Little Red Book
Allegiance to Mao and his Little Red Book
Burning of precious artifacts that often included books, jewelry and anything of personal wealth
Public humiliation of anyone accused of being a capitalist, an entrepreneur, an artist, a teacher or anyone that went against the Mao regime or classified as dissidents. Punishments would sometimes mean brutal beatings, cutting off of body parts, being buried alive or thrown in labor camps, working in freezing temperatures with no clothes on.
From their stories, I notice the distinct vast generation gap between the parents and their children today. China remains a communist country but it is brimming with modernism in every facet of an urban metroplis that was achieved at lightning speed and surpasses many sophisticated cities around the world today. China is a very different country today than what many perceive.
Parents in their 40-60's remember vividly the Cultural Revolution since many of them were children when it occurred. Yet, they thrived beyond the rubbles of poverty and dispair through sheer hard work and tenacity and rose to success. The industrial elite we see today are actually first generational wealth and that is quite commendable. Like Jack Ma, the founder of Alibaba and Wang Jialin, founder of Dalian Wanda Group. They spent their youth in the Cultural Revolution and had very humble beginnings. They didn't have wealthy parents like many of our CEO's or billionaires where the wealth was passed on.
Their education level might be sketchy since Chairman Mao shut down the school system so he can institute his ideologies. Healthcare was meager and scarce so many are shorter, have stained teeth, have leathery skin, lesions, scars and other setbacks from not having access to healthcare during that time. Their hands bear scars from toiling away in the fields. Many drank dirty water and consumed unsanitary food which affected their health.
Jack Ma and his brother and sister during the Cultural Revolution
Wang Jianlin in the far right, joined the Red Army during the Cultural Revolution
Their education level might be sketchy since Chairman Mao shut down the school system so he can institute his ideologies. Healthcare was meager and scarce so many are shorter, have stained teeth, have leathery skin, lesions, scars and other setbacks from not having access to healthcare during that time. Their hands bear scars from toiling away in the fields. Many drank dirty water and consumed unsanitary food which affected their health.
China today has plenty of access to healthcare, food supply, education and advanced infrastructure system. Therefore, the children today are taller and healthier looking. Their skin is lighter and supple, head full of hair. They can eat anything they want as there are culinary delights from worldwide in every corner. China is also the largest recipient of every technological innovation in the world. So the children have the latest gadgets and technology when just a generation before, their parents were watching a black and white TV that was shared with several people in their village. These privileged children do not have any idea about what their parents went through, other than what they read about in books about the Cultural Revolution. Being the children of one child policies, they also received all the privileges and luxuries as the only child. They are the new China.
China's Hipsters
This is the generation gap that is showcased in 'The Beijing Youths'. I illustrate the vast difference between Simon as a young boy and his son at about the same age. Will they be able to bridge that gap or will it tear the family apart?
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Thursday, December 14, 2017
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Wednesday, November 29, 2017
Wierd Chinese Eats or Nutritional Medicine?
The world eats a wide variety of food and sometimes they are strange to someone in the world. The Chinese definitely have their share! When you have over 5,000 years in history, one can only imagine the variety of things the Chinese picked up along the way that are considered edible or delicacies. Even more so when the country has seen its episodic moments of famine in history and relied on non-traditional sources for protein and nutrients in order to survive. Sometimes a trip into a Chinese supermarket or even a traditional medicine store in the "Asian" parts of town is like watching an episode of "Fear Factor".
1. Grass Jelly Drink
2. Chrysanthemum tea drink
3. Birds Nest Drink
4. Bird's Nest Soup
Birds Nest Soup
5. Traditional Herbal Medicine
In Book 1 or The Beijing Family, Grandma Moh makes traditional Chinese medicinal tea for Kara Chan. She thought she was drinking roots and herbs. Unbeknownst to her, she is drinking tea made of ox penis!
In traditional Chinese medicine, ox penis is believed to increase one's virility, energy and sexual prowess
6. Chicken Feet
In The Beijing Family book series, Grandma Moh unleashes some pretty wild Chinese fare including her practice of traditional Chinese medicine that can be sometimes shocking. In The Beijing Youths or Book 2 of The Beijing Family book series, Grandma Moh makes lunch for her grandson, Greg and his American friends. His friend unknowingly thought they were about to experience the common everyday beef and broccoli and orange chicken dishes at their local Chinese eateries. Oh no! Little do they know, they are about to be treated to some of the most bizarre and outlandish Chinese food! Greg and his American friends were thirsty, so they go to the fridge to find drinks. They were looking for bottled water, sodas and ice tea and instead, they find strange Chinese beverages. Some say that these wierd drinks derived from fruits and vegetables and not laden with sugar like Western soft drinks. But sometimes, maybe a good Sprite may be more appetizing. You be the judge!
Here are a few of the examples:
Here are a few of the examples:
1. Grass Jelly Drink
Grass Jelly Drink
What the heck is a grass jelly drink? Grass like in the green stuff that grows on lawns? And now it's in jelly form for a drink? Oh hell NO! Is this what the Chinese do to leftover cut grass? Actually grass jelly is made from boiling aged and slightly oxidized grass, but it's the stalks and leaves of Mesona Chinesis, a member of the mint family. After cooling the liquid to a jelly-like black consistency, this jelly can be cut into cubes or other forms and mixed with sugar or syrup to make drinks or dessert. I've had grass jelly many times, especially in my boba drinks, usually enjoyed as sweet beverages or dessert.
Grass Jelly mixed with fruits
Grass Jelly in almond or coconut milk and syrup or sugar
Chrysanthemum tea drink
One of Greg's American friends is shocked to see flower petals in a beverage! He couldn't even pronounce it. He asks, "What's a Chrys....an....whatever?"
The Chinese medicinal practice includes the use of chrysanthemums as a major part of the treatment. The Chinese knew that a soothing cup of warm golden brown Chrysanthemum tea has remarkable health benefits with high potency. Chrysanthemum tea has high amount of B carotene which are present in the yellow part of the fruit. The B carotene is converted in Vitamin A in the liver. This kind of Vitamin A is helpful in treating skin problems and increasing the immunity power. It also helps in postponing the aging process and age related blindness. Drinking Chrysanthemum tea helps in providing relief in sore throat, redness in the eyes, itchiness in the eyes, dryness in the eyes and dark spots in the eye area. It makes the lungs strong and helps in providing relief in respiratory problems such as shortness of breath. Chrysanthemum tea is good for the detoxification of the liver and for lowering cholesterol levels.
Birds Nest Drink
Greg and his friends then wander upon birds' nest drinks. One of Greg's American friends, Tevin, asks, 'Is there a bird in here?' Then he shakes the can anticipating a chirping sound. Yes, this drink is made from a nest from the swiftlet bird. Edible birds' nests are among the most expensive animal products consumed by humans, with an average nest selling for $2,500 per kilogram for end consumers in Asia. The nests have been used in Chinese cooking for over 400 years, most often as bird's nest soup. The white nests and the red nests are supposedly rich in nutrients, which are traditionally believed to provide health benefits, such as aiding digestion, raising libido, improving the voice, alleviating asthma, improving focus, and an overall benefit to the immune system. One interesting ingredient is that the swiftlet's bird nest is cemented by the usage of saliva from the swiflet bird. So this drink and the soup commonly served in Chinese restaurants have swiftlet's saliva.
This is what the drink looks like mixed with white fungus which is a commonly used thickening agent:

4. Bird's Nest Soup

Birds Nest Soup
Bird's Nest Soup is a gelatinous mix of chicken broth and swiftlet's, which is a type of bird and its saliva. Yes you heard me right. You are eating bird saliva! Swiftlets make their nests from saliva and each year, after the bird has left the nest, it's harvested and added to the soup, which is famed for its health benefits. This Chinese delicacy contains one of the most expensive animal products that humans consume. A kilogram of nests can cost anywhere from $2,000 to $10,000 USD> The swiftlet's nest is considered to have considerable health benefits, which justify the steep price of the soup ($30 to $100) and the nests themselves.
5. Traditional Herbal Medicine
In Book 1 or The Beijing Family, Grandma Moh makes traditional Chinese medicinal tea for Kara Chan. She thought she was drinking roots and herbs. Unbeknownst to her, she is drinking tea made of ox penis!
Ox penis sold in a local street market
In traditional Chinese medicine, ox penis is believed to increase one's virility, energy and sexual prowess
6. Chicken Feet
I often see chicken feet at dim sum restaurants. Every time, I just simply cringe. I just don't think feet of any animal should be considered edible considering that they are used for walking on the ground, brimming with bacteria and germs. All I can think about is the trash that I would be eating along with the feet that touched them. My father loves chicken feet despite contending with them being bony and bristly.
7. Century Egg
Century Egg
Century egg or pidan is a delicacy by preserving duck, chicken or quail eggs in a mixture of clay, ash, salt, quicklime and rice hulls for several weeks to a few months. Some historians say that this practice goes back to the Ming dynasty as a way to preserve food without refrigeration. I've had this a few times. It's salty and the eggs have a potent ammonia taste to it.
That's it for now. When I find more strange eats, I will post more here....Thanks for reading this blog.
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Sunday, November 19, 2017
Feeling grateful....
Thank you Karo C. Pei for buying my entire book series and posting the photo on Facebook. I am feeling so grateful.
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